Dears,
I’m starting a new segment on the blog inspired by my journal entries. I’ve been writing in my journals for several years now. And lately, more often than ever. It’s not only a reflective practice but also an inspiring one. I’ve been receiving amazing insights, sometimes because of my reflections, and other times it feels like I’m communicating directly with the divine. Journal entries are very personal, but it’s not the first time I’ve stated that I believe that it is in the personal that we find ourselves. Also, it’s not like you’re going to read all my intimate thoughts; I’m selective with the content I publish as I honor the sacredness of my privacy and my personal experiences.
With that noted, here’s the first of hopefully many Journal Reflections:
I need not chase, and I need not be chosen.
Let me expand on this thought…
One of my truths is that we are energetic magnets. We vibrate on different frequencies and we attract on different frequencies. Sometimes we attract that which is aligned with us on only a few levels, and other times we attract what’s aligned on several levels.
A friend of mine once told me that she doesn’t think we (always) attract the people who come into our lives or the circumstances we face because we’re on a vibrational resonance with them. She used the example of light, and how light tends to attract seekers of light – like moths and lamps. And I agree with her, too. We don’t always attract that which is aligned with us. Multiple things can be true.
As we walk in our “light”, we attract those seeking light as well. Just like a magnet has a positive and a negative pole, we will inevitably attract those who appear to be opposite forces of us. The saying opposites attract didn’t come out of nowhere. Yet I believe that energetically, there is a part of us that may end up giving that which is not aligned with us our attention and energy because our magnets are pulling to their magnets; for whatever reason, there’s a connecting force. We give someone or something attention because there’s a degree of resonance – even if that may be on a nonconscious level.
So how does this relate to chasing and being chosen?
Chasing is not our inherently natural flow. Its premises are not rooted in attraction nor alignment, but rather, in force. You feel like you must go above and beyond to have whatever you’re chasing. And that’s because when you’re chasing, you’re trying to make something happen. This creates the next issue: being chosen.
When you’re chasing something or someone, it is because you want to be seen, acknowledged, and chosen.
You might ask, then, “What about chasing your dreams?”, “What about knocking on doors?”, “What about trying relentlessly until you get it?”, ” What about effort?”, and “What about proactivity?”
My answer to these questions, based on my own experiences, is simple: know when to.
Pursuing is not the same as chasing
There is such a thing as having interests and pursuing interests. When you meet someone you have a connection with, you may be interested in getting to know them. When you find a vocation that resonates with you, you may want to pursue it. When you find a passion, you may want to explore it, learn about it, and become excellent at it. Pursuing something, however, is not the same as chasing something. Know when to take action to pursue what you want. Know when to exert agency and go after what you want. But never to be chosen and validated.
In an energetically balanced dynamic, there are no choosers. There’s only alignment.
Don’t get consumed in the culture of “being chosen” – whether that is by someone or an organization – as that implies that there is a chooser, and you are at the mercy of this chooser. In an energetically balanced dynamic, there are no choosers. There’s only alignment.
Living in a world that tells us to “go get it”, “make it happen”, and “chase that bag”, I know it’s not always easy to apply the principles I just mentioned. It may seem like if we don’t chase hard enough we will lose to someone who did run a bit harder than we did. It may seem like if we don’t run after what we want, we may never get it.
And I can’t help but to think of the old proverb, “if it’s meant to be, it will be.” This implies flow over force, and that’s exactly what the principles “I need not chase, and I need not be chosen” are about.
Alignment with frequencies creates communion and fusion of frequencies. Alignment with frequencies creates a convergence of energies. In such a state, “chasing” and “being chosen” seize to be part of reality; instead, attracting and merging become the standard. This applies to all areas of your life. When you attract what/who resonates to you and what/who you resonate to, pursuit will feel easier, and certainly not as forced as chasing does.
Pursuit allows and aligns. Chasing may force to make things happen. While pursuit converges interests with alignment, chasing some interests can be at the expense of alignment. This is because when chasing, one wants to be chosen by the perceived chooser (sometimes at whatever cost) as opposed to allowing convergence to happen naturally and effortlessly yet intentionally.
A final note: we are constantly choosing things; our life is based on decision-making. We choose to be in any form of dynamic we’re in. And vice versa, the people who are in our lives are also choosing to let us partake in their reality.
But this is different than being chosen, as one is active and co-creative, and the other passive and submissive to only the chooser. And this is why I need not chase, and I need not be chosen.
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