Dears, I was sitting earlier today at this cute cafe where I often grab breakfast and brunch. While waiting on my food, after I had responded to a chat message, a seemingly random thought hit me: I love the person I’m becoming. As I entertained that thought, I felt inspired to write about why I felt that feeling.
I was chatting with someone who was crossing a boundary by inquiring about something rather private. I have no established relationship with this person for them to ask me about this matter – and if I somehow gave an indication that they could, my swift reply, “That’s really none of your concern…”, reminded me that I get to decide how much I share and that I have the ability to establish a boundary when someone is prying.
It’s the second time this happened recently. I was leaving a different cafe a few weeks ago after spending hours working there when one of the baristas asked me where I was heading. I remember looking at her and telling her that where I was heading was my business with the kindest tone and demeanor I could. Understanding the boundary I had established, she made a light joke that it was her business too. We smiled as I raised my eyebrows and I left.
These were two examples, but I had several other incidents where my boundaries were tested this year and where I was proud of how I responded. And dears, I can’t tell you how much I love this version of me, because I wasn’t like this. I wasn’t in a position where I would honor my boundaries unapologetically, and that’s why I’m taking a moment to acknowledge this.
I love that I can now be assertive and kind. I love that I’ve moved past niceness to kindness. And I realized that kindness is not always perceived as nice. (A huge shout out to Brené Brown for discussing this in The Gifts of Imperfection – I highly recommend that book!)
I love that I’ve moved past niceness to kindness. And I realized that kindness is not always perceived as nice.
Beyond the niceness/kindness difference, I have a sense of authority and power that I have never felt before. It’s been a journey, but I now see myself as worthy despite of my actions or lack thereof. I can easily tune into my needs and take action when needed. I speak from wisdom and experience and less theory and ideology; it’s like I moved from thought to actions and I let the actions teach me. I’ve moved beyond binary understandings of reality after daring to explore more. I can kindly yet firmly establish my boundaries without stuttering. I know what feels good and what doesn’t, and I respect my Inner Wisdom to do what feels right in such moments.
Everything I’ve been doing internally over the past few years feels like a foundation for another emergence. I’m now exploring an emergence rooted in a thorough and deep exploration of Who I Am and what I bring to the table. I’m maturing into someone I have yet to fully know, but I love the person I’m becoming.
I’m sharing this with you because I know we share our humanity. You might also find yourself in these words. Let’s appreciate how far we have come today. Give yourself a pat on the back – because only you know what it took to get you to where you are today.🦋✨
Soul Poetry: I love the person I’m becoming
Dears, thank you so much for your time.